Words from the wise...

My therapist told me today that I don't get to decide how other people react. What?!

While I know that in my head, I can recognize that I censor myself due to who I am talking to and how I think they will react. If I think that they will be offended by something I say or do, I won't say or do it. Sometimes, even when I know it is the right thing. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't think that gives me permission to say or do things that are hurtful.

But, I tend to swing to the other side. I become overly concerned with how someone might take something I say or do. I find myself analyzing conversations, texts and emails . I worry that something may be taken out of context. That something I will say or do will trigger something in them and make them feel bad based on their history. Again, in my head, I know I am not responsible for others and all their emotional history. But, in my heart, that's another story.

Here's to working on my stuff...

yipee.